Of course, I understand any reasonable person's hesitation to walk into a tense situation alone so I stated publicly Dale may bring one or two buddies along to watch his back or film the interaction if they so chose. His response naming two people (one of which is just another faceless troll) should be taken as acceptance of this condition, although this will become relevant in just a moment.
Considering it's going to be filmed, the excuse that there needs to be numerous witnesses goes out the window. The only logical conclusion is that Dale has no intention of stepping into a ring with me, but instead needs a posse to bolster his confidence to even be in the same room. According to his video posted November 2nd in BSMA, he plans to bring "a few people" and made it a point that he is comfortable "fighting multiples" due to his "extensive" career as a bouncer, the implication being I should be as well. It's not that I haven't had my share of bar room brawls, but I will say that the tactics of dealing with such are slightly different...
This morning, Dale graced us with another video detailing how he's going to "pin me down and make me squeal" on the 12th. Sounds kinky. That makes 33 videos to date that he has put up on BSMA running his mouth about me and my teacher, Steven Hatfield. Can you imagine the amount of free rent space I occupy in this guy's head that he actually filmed so many videos?
Now here comes the best part. BSMA is already setting themselves up for a loss and trying to explain it away. I've counted no less than 4 posts in the last 48 hours (and numerous subsequent comments) stating that the outcome of any fight does not prove one's legitimacy as a martial artist. While I agree in principle, it's just interesting that they have pushed for so long for me and Dale to meet and now that I've set a date they are back-peddling to say no matter what happens, I'm still a "fraud" and "liar." I've even read one comment that said martial arts has nothing to do with fighting and really "over 90% of martial arts is about developing self-esteem and life skills in children..."
It's not my job to make up for someone else's failed parenting. It is my job to teach people viable skills to protect themselves and their families from personal experience and intensive training. Ultimately when you call me a fraud, you are telling me I am not qualified to impart these viable skills, and that my experience and training doesn't exist. So yes, the logical response is to put that accusation to the test through physical contests. Rank, titles and licenses are absolutely meaningless without the corresponding skill level and knowledge to back them up. The only thing that truly matters is what you can do on the mat and in real life.
Does that mean that by challenging me out of nowhere, Dale is admitting he is a fraud and knows he can't defend his behavior, gambling on the idea that I won't take his challenge seriously? Coupled with the fact that the amount of posts about our upcoming meeting on the 12th has sky-rocketed with numerous people egging it on, BSMA continues to show they are nothing more than a group of cyber-bullies and trolls looking to start trouble. The only tactics they are capable of are intimidation and harassment, of which I only scratch the surface in the following articles:
"Obsession Isn't Healthy, Boys"
"The Hypocrisy Of The Internet"
"A Warrior's Duty Is To Protect"
"Blowing Smoke... Medically"
"Unmasking The Trolls"
"Manipulating The Truth"
"Beware The Martial Arts Police"
"There's Always Something (Part 1)"
There are some more things I forgot to mention in the main article above, not the least of which after talking tough for so long and volunteering to travel to Ohio to show my teacher the same lesson he plans to show me, Hatfield sensei actually accepted his offer as well. However, Dale ducked out of that one in record time...
As for the accusation about supporting child rape, we have already made it abundantly clear that we denounce all forms of violence against children in numerous articles. Why Dale keeps fixating on this is beyond me? Perhaps he's trying to deflect from his own inclinations, or maybe something happened to him as a child? Either way, it has nothing to do with us.
My school, Trio Martial Arts Academy, is a semi-private institution that limits instruction to teens and adults (currently, there is not a single active student under the age of 21). I have worked hard to develop a culture among my students that allows us to function as family. In fact, I'm probably closer to every single one of my students than I am to many of my blood relatives. Because I cater to adults, when not in training the walls come down. It is not uncommon for us to sit around after the last class with a bottle of sake, decompressing from the stresses of the week. I confide in them just as much as they confide in me. You may call us a social club, and I fail to see how that's a negative. I have a full-time job already, and my dojo is not a business nor do I have any intention of running it like one.
By now, I'm sure everyone has seen the video of Dale and his bodyguards showing up unannounced on a night when I cancelled class last minute and was instead sitting at the dojo with two students (there is only one that can be seen in frame, but my sister is just around the corner. Dale even waved to her, so he can't say she wasn't there). One other student was on his way as well, and showed up roughly 5 minutes after Dale left. Why Dale needed two bodyguards to just "drop off a waiver" is beyond me, and the truth is that if he had any intention of stepping on the mat with me, he would've asked to do so when he had me outnumbered instead of saying "I'll be back." No one drives an hour and a half just to hand someone a piece of paper that they already emailed over.
Now, a couple of things about that night have become part of BSMA's sick and twisted fantasy about who they think I am, so let me state this unequivocally. I was not "drinking alone with a married female student." As stated, we weren't alone, and in the video you can clearly see my student is holding a soda from McDonald's. WE were not drinking. I had a drink, which as a grown man in the company of other adults, I don't need to explain myself for doing. To then try and equate that with a healthcare professional who smokes pot before seeing patients is just mind-blowing.
The next thing they brought up was the fact that I rushed her out of the room, implying it shows we were "caught and guilty." Just, no. When three hostile individuals (who spent months making threats against me) walked into my school, I sent my student into the other room and placed myself in between the door and the visitors just in case something popped off. Period!
There is absolutely no excuse for putting my student on blast, including posting contact info for her family, and potentially putting her entire life, marriage and career in jeopardy! Doing so just shows the lack of humanity and decency any of them have, and let's the world know what true pieces of shit they are.
Now with regards to this coming Thursday when Dale is supposed to return, with two more bodyguards, for us to settle our differences. BSMA has already stated that the outcome of any match we have will not prove anything. Furthermore, I know that the outcome will be twisted. If I win, they'll say it was due to his age and his stamina. If he gets injured, they'll say "See! Bret is dangerous and violent like we said and shouldn't be teaching." Even with a signed waiver, I have no doubt they will try to sue my partner for damages since technically it's not even my unit that we teach in nor is my name on the lease. After all, he only agreed not to sue ME.
Taking all of this into consideration, I am officially calling off the 12th. It is absolutely pointless if BSMA won't concede that it proves my legitimacy. There is no doubt in my mind they will only come at me harder in retaliation after I win, and I don't need the street cred of otherwise faceless trolls on the internet to be able to sleep at night.
Dale Dugas - you and your friends are no longer welcome in my school. I am done entertaining your charade, and the fact that you had every opportunity to ask me to step on the floor this past week and chose not to just proves how unwilling you really are while trying to save face. If you and your echo chamber want to throw the "bitch card" at me for this, go for it. It's certainly in character for you. But frankly, you and everyone else at BSMA can just fuck off.